Aaron Dembski-Bowden

Don't worry. None of this blood is mine.

Some Brief Advice on Fatherhood

Surprisingly, I’ve been asked a lot recently if I have any advice on fatherhood. Like, because I’m such a veteran or something.

The answer is no. I have none. What I do have is one of the great truths of my first 2-3 months being a dad, and it’s not ‘advice’; it’s just something my friend John French told me to do when I was mailing him in frustrated tears. But I’ve started sharing it, as it’s solid gold.

April 27, 2012 - Posted by | Uncategorized |


  1. Words of wisdom indeed, and not just for expectant fathers.

    Comment by G | April 27, 2012 | Reply

  2. Now a useless mother in day-to-day functioning would be more tragic…

    Comment by Flying_Dutchman | April 27, 2012 | Reply

  3. No actual wisdom? You always were such a bad liar. 🙂

    Comment by John | April 27, 2012 | Reply

  4. It’s cute that geeks now turn to other geeks for parental advice!

    Comment by Minitrol | April 27, 2012 | Reply

  5. Doesn’t the second paragraph of your reply rather disprove the first?

    Comment by Matthew Farrer | April 29, 2012 | Reply

  6. Something I’d say to prospective parents is to warn that you may well find yourself turning – if you take on the occasional full Night Shift for your partner, so that they can grab more than 10 minutes of sleep – into a rather evil, nasty bastard when you’re *really* sleep deprived. If this happens, just recognise it for what it is (a temporary reaction to an extreme situation; you’re not *really* an evil bastard) and rest (ho ho) assured that the sleepless nights *will* *pass*. Eventually.

    Comment by Robbie | April 29, 2012 | Reply

  7. Wow, it’s like you’re becoming the David Koresh of Facebook.

    Comment by Richard Ford | May 3, 2012 | Reply

  8. Next time somebody asks you…simply offer the simpsons as advice…

    As a parenting tool. It’s invaluable…”Remember the episode when….yeah? Well that’s how I mean *state point here*”

    *kids* “OHHHHHHH” *as sudden realisation floods them.*

    Comment by Mitch. | May 4, 2012 | Reply

  9. What about “When he/she is old enough: the Original Trilogy, non-“Special” editions.”? That’s right up there with “applesauce, milk and whatever Gerber puts in those jars until the kid has teeth”.

    Comment by David Failkips (@DavidFailkips) | May 6, 2012 | Reply

  10. My other half is very impressed by this. Says if you want another baby, she’s available. (She’s not).

    Comment by Graeme | May 9, 2012 | Reply

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