Aaron Dembski-Bowden

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Dear Fuchsia – Part IIIb: Dear Alexander

Dear Fuchsia,

Obviously, you were never going to be called Fuchsia. As I’ve said, Katie would never let me get away with it. You were supposed to be Annah. Or, rather, Savannah Lily Dembski-Bowden. I was going to change Dear Fuchsia to Dear Annah.

“It’s a boy.”

I’ve now dedicated two novels to you, under the wrong fucking name. Thanks, man. No, don’t worry, that’s not massively inconvenient. Not at all.

Admittedly, it doesn’t really annoy me, as it makes for a cute story for me to tell now – and a cool one for you to tell in the grim darkness of the far future. Even so, the dedications to Void Stalker and The Emperor’s Gift now make no sense, and I have to use yet another dedication to make all of this stuff fall into order. You owe me for this, kid. Feel free to pay me back by not pissing all over me in the months to come. I’d appreciate that.

So. “It’s a boy.”

Those are the first words I said when you were born. I was the first one to say it, and I said it several times.

Picture the scene: a small delivery room; three midwives; Katie in birthing stirrups; Katie’s mum standing at the bedside, and me standing next to her, closer to Katie’s head. I was very much at the Top End. I saw practically nothing (just as planned…) until you came popping out of there like a slimy goblin squeezed from a… whatever goblins get squeezed out from. The look of relief on Katie’s face was such undiluted, complete, raw relief – such pure, wide-eyed emotion – that I almost laughed. Humanity stripped bare. It was amazing.

She was looking up at me with almost no understanding, just this plaintive, bunny-in-the-headlights look. “It’s a boy,” I said, again and again and again. She clicked on the fourth or fifth time. “Really? Really?” I was laughing and crying and nodding and could barely see a fucking thing through my blurring vision, but trust me, I was sure. I’d checked it out with lightning speed – mostly because I’ve been secretly expecting it for months. I didn’t know, of course. I still thought you’d be a girl – you trolled us good. But I’d been half-expecting it, nevertheless.

When one of my Facebook statuses had been “Please be a girl, please be a girl, please be a girl,” my friend Chuck Wendig had replied within seconds, saying “Enjoy your son.” I’ve thought about those words many, many times during your time in the Tummy Pod, and secretly felt they had something threateningly prophetic about them. “You better not be a boy,” I’ve said, six or seven million times since then, pointing at Katie’s bump.

Another time, when she was out buying baby clothes, she bought something for a boy in amongst all the girl stuff. “Don’t do that,” I said. “You’ll jinx her.”

And then there was the last scan, which should have been confirming your gender (before, say, I did anything crazy like dedicate a novel or two to you). Instead, the midwife doing it was creepily cagey about it. When we called you “She” after the scan, the midwife asked “Have you already bought lots of pink things?”

I narrowed my eyes. I sort of looked like… Hang on, I’ll go make a template.

There we go. That’s what I looked like, and that’s what I said. “It is a girl, right?”

“I’m sorry.” She seemed in a rush, all of a sudden. “I didn’t check.”

I waited. I waited for her to go back to scanning, or to elaborate, or to do anything at related to confirming your gender. She did none of those things. I found out later, from various sources, that it’s Erne Hospital policy usually not to tell.

“They told us at the second scan that she was a girl,” I prodded.

“They did? They don’t usually tell people.” She started talking about other midwifery stuff that I wasn’t really taking in.

I narrowed my eyes further. They were so narrow at that point, I couldn’t really see anything. I think I said “Hmmm.” Inside my head, I was thinking “Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm…”

There’ve been plenty of moments like this. Just little silly guesses and moments of imaginary symbolism. Even today, when one of the midwives asked for clothes to get ready for when you were born, Katie’s mum and I handed her the first things that came to hand from The Bag of Baby Things. I watched her lay it out – all of it in gender neutral whites and greens.

“Hmmmmm,” I thought. Gypsy-style alterations of fate crossed my mind. “I bet that’s a sign.” Rarely have any thoughts in my life been that clear, that cold.

But then, no, surely not. It’s a girl. That’s what we were told. Yes. A girl. No such thing as signs. Ha, ha. Hilarious.

“It’s a boy,” I said to Katie, while you were being wiped down. Her eyes lit up when it finally hit home. “Really?”

Several of my friends wanted girls but had boys, or wanted boys but had girls, and every single one of them always says the same thing. “Once you see the baby, you just don’t care.”

I’ve answered them all with the same refrain: “For you, maybe. But I have to have a girl. It’ll be a girl, or it’s going on eBay.”

I usually hate being wrong. This time, as I saw this slimy, terrifying creature that cried enough to make the midwives and doctor smile (before you fell into wide-eyed silence) I’d never been so happy to have spent so long being absolutely fucking incorrect.

I feel like an idiot for thinking it mattered. At least it makes for a good story.

Still, you can imagine how glad we are that you have a gender neutral nursery in soft earth tones. We do, however, have to go clothes shopping. Unless you really, really like pink.

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Alexander Timothy Dembski-Bowden. Born Tuesday 21st February 2012, at 4:30pm. You’re named for Katie’s grandfather and my father, with a convenient side order of Alexander the Great (I read so much history and historical fiction about Macedon; you have no idea), and the fact Alexander is one of mine and Katie’s absolute favourite male names.

Back when we had doubts about your gender, we actually picked a boy’s name in a matter of seconds, and never changed our minds on it – which, incidentally, was another sign I worried about. A girl’s name took ages, and was in flux until 6-7 months. But the boy’s name? Had that nailed in seconds.

But back to the day itself, while it’s still fresh in my mind.

I’m writing this between 4am and 6am on Wednesday now, making you just over 12 hours old. I was so tired when I left the hospital at 8:15pm that I was out cold the second my head hit the pillow at home. While I only slept for three hours, it was the most insane, surreal, healing sleep. At one point, my phone woke me up. It was Jessica calling (I think she’s in New York right now), and in addition to being my ex, she’s also one of the kindest, sweetest, most considerate people I’ve ever met. I was desperate to talk to her today; she was one of the people I made sure I was going to touch base with.

Instead, as I lifted my head to check who was calling, I was asleep again before I could answer it. I woke up two hours later with my phone still in my hand, and a voicemail from her after I’d missed the call.

I’d never felt so tired. My friend John had warned me about the big sleep that comes after it’s all gone down, but it’s one of those many moments in all this that you can’t get a handle on just from having a friend tell you about it. I didn’t sleep for three whole days when I was finishing Blood Reaver. Three days without sleep, and I was starting to hallucinate at the edges of my vision. That had nothing on how tired I was this time. Admittedly, I’d not slept for two days with everything going on, but even so, it made Blood Reaver’s final stretch feel like a cakewalk.

The first person I wanted to call was my brother Adam. I had the fiercest need to call him, but I knew Mum was waiting to hear first, so I called her. By the time I was done talking, I was in truly ruinous tears and had been outside the delivery ward almost half an hour, so I was desperate to get back in. The other person I’d wanted to call was Barney – and, again, I didn’t do it. Straight back in. No waiting.

One of the more bizarre things about today – and bear with me, as this is difficult to explain – is that I was still me while it was happening. I was still me, thinking the kind of things I always think, with the same observations, insecurities and emotions. As a similar example, when I was a kid, I used to think “When I’m grown up, I’ll enjoy eating vegetables,” and “When I’m an adult, I’ll enjoy going to work.” But those things don’t just magically change because you find yourself in those situations. You’re still you. It’s hard to make vegetables just suddenly taste great if your tongue finds them repellent. If you have a job you hate (or even one you enjoy, but with a long commute, etc.) you don’t suddenly feel unabashed joy at the thought of leaving a warm bed. You imagine a disassociation, but in reality, you’re just there, and you’re just you.

In all my imaginings of the delivery room (which were very Hollywood-based, and therefore I now know are absolute fucking nonsense), I thought I’d be nervous. Attentive, but nervous. When it came to it, I was still me, carelessly saying the most inane shit with an “…is it just me?” expression etched across my face. About a minute and a half after you were born, when Katie was being cleaned up and the long process of fussing over you was really beginning, I said: “Hm, he’s… he’s kinda looking a little ginger, here. That’s not good.”

A couple of minutes later, when the midwives had joined in the fussing, I tried a bolder truth. “Well, I’ll be the first to say it. We’re all thinking it. He kinda looks like Gollum. I’m just saying.”

You really did, too. Seriously, you made some proper I Hate Frodo faces. Ask me to do an impersonation sometime.

Once everything was cleaned up, as I was getting something I don’t remember from Katie’s bags, I passed the medical trolley with the afterbirth in a plastic tray. This gelatinous spread of Lovecraftian foulness made me stop and stare. “No one look in this tray,” I said to both the midwives, to Katie, and to Katie’s mum. “Dear God, no one look in this tray. I’ve seen things you wouldn’t believe.” 

Maybe this isn’t entirely fair.

I mean, you’re beautiful. You’re perfect. I cried just from staring at you, even hours after you were born. Sure, you’re “Baby Ugly” in the way all babies are a bit ugly when you pull weird faces and mangle your face against boobs, but you’re also beautiful. One of the first things I noticed about you – besides the fact you, y’know, have balls – is that you’ve got little fingernails already. Little fingernails, and tiny fingers. Always reaching, in aimless, unaware baby movements. Heartbreaking, and I have no idea why. All I know is that it’s a good thing.

Katie did well. That sounds like faint praise, but it’s not. Her mum was with us the entire time, as were three midwives (and the occasional doctor), and the scenario went from Potentially Problematic to Ludicrously Smooth Sailing in a very, very short space of time. I’m aware that mums and midwives will always say a new mother did well, but there was genuine pleasure and surprise from all corners today. It could’ve gone a lot wronger given the meconium-in-the-fluid issue, and it was expected to be a lot more difficult, because Katie wasn’t progressing with any real speed for quite a while. I won’t go into any of the juicy details. Suffice to say that in early afternoon, it looked like a lot of work and patience, and an induction at about 5pm. We were waiting for a doctor until then. It wasn’t looking bad, but it also wasn’t looking natural or smooth.

By 3:30pm, Katie was fully dilated out of the blue, and you were in a sudden hurry to get things done. Katie had progressed so fast she was past the point of being able to take painkillers, so she did the whole thing on gas and air. The really active parts of labour didn’t last long, and Katie’s pushing sort of sent you firing out like a cannonball. That’s not an exaggeration. There was a genuine moment of being airborne, into the midwife’s waiting hands.

Irish girls, man. Built to breed. Make a note of that.

Once you were in Katie’s arms, she went through another transformation. She instantly (no, really, we’re literally talking a matter of minutes) started talking about about having another baby, because you were so perfect. (See? Irish.) Panic started to set in. “One’s enough, honey.” I patted her head. I patted your head. I may have been crying again. “One’s enough.” 

You may be in the hospital for a day or two longer than usual, for some low-maintenance monitoring. Again, that’s because you were gross and decided to shit in your gestational pod. Everything looks fine so far, though. Thankfully, once you were wiped down, you didn’t smell like Pure Evil. You didn’t taste like it, either. I know that because I kissed your tiny, tiny fingertips.

And cried a bit, on your head.

Sorry about that.

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When it came time to get Katie back to the maternity ward, from the delivery room, I pushed you in your little plastic hospital tub-cradle-thing. You were three hours old, and heading down into your first ever sleep in the outside world. The photos I took of you were a few minutes before we moved you.

Baby Yawns. I didn't expect to find these adorable.

You’re not crying there, you’re yawning. I can only speak for how you acted from 4:30 to 8:15, but you cried for less than a minute in total, equally divided between “Holy shit, I’ve just been born,” and “Ow, fuck, I’ve just been given a Vitamin K injection”.

So I wheeled you through, like pushing a little shopping trolley.

It was almost funny. People kept congratulating me as I pushed you through; I was thanking them all, and I’d never felt prouder. Proud of what? I didn’t even do anything. I didn’t care. I was crying again, silently cry-grinning. Every tiny bump in the floor, as it changed from one kind of tile to another, was a tectonic event when the wheels went over them. You barely noticed, beyond a little hand-flex or a shake of the head. Katie kept looking back, checking on us. She smiled and smiled and smiled. I’d only seen a light in her eyes like that once before, and that was when the midwife put you in her arms.

You don’t speak English yet, but while Katie was getting cleaned up in her bath and we were alone for 20 minutes, I told you three things. Three things, three lessons, that I want you to remember even when I’m no longer around to remind you.

Three things. I manage to do the first two, myself. I’m working on the third.

The first is a quote from Futurama. “When push comes to shove, you’ve got to do what you love, even if it’s not a good idea.” I live my life by that, and always had, even before I heard it put so clearly into words. It’s not wise, but it’s fun.

The second thing is wiser. “Always punch above your weight.” It’s how you get places. It’s how you get better, stronger, smarter. Don’t let it be a pressure to succeed. Just always make sure you try. Take chances. Always, always punch above your weight. With women. With work. With everything.

The third thing is from a novel by one of my favourite authors, David Gemmell. It’s the Iron Code of Druss the Legend, and something I’m sure fantasy fan parents have been sharing since the 80s.

“Never violate a woman, nor harm a child. Do not lie, cheat or steal. These things are for lesser men. Protect the weak against the evil strong. And never allow thoughts of gain to lead you into the pursuit of evil.”

Some of that may seem like it doesn’t apply to real life. Trust me, it does. My biological father (you’re not named for him, don’t sweat it) was an alcoholic who beat my mum. There’s the first part of the code for you. The rest is morality, about living the way you should rather than the way that’s easiest. I’m still working on it. I’ve made some strides in some ways, and stumbled in others. I’ve been snide, bitter, and tried to ruin other people through tactical whining and various pressures. I’m better than I’ve ever been, though. I’m a work in progress. The code’s a good ethos to live by.

Rather than end this on something I’ve already told you, I’ll tell you something new.

Always trust your mother, and your Uncle Robert. Katie is the most intuitive, strongest person I’ve ever met in my life. My friend Rob is the smartest and most perceptive. I admire the two of them more than anyone else in the world. If you ever find yourself needing advice and I’m too busy talking you into bad ideas because it sounds fun, then listen to their voices. Never listen to Uncle Barney, especially if he offers you advice about women.

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47 Comments »

  1. Congrats brother, can’t say it enough. This is what we live for.

    Comment by DarKnight | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  2. I’d already left you a congratulations, Aaron, so I’ll take the time to congratulate Katie, too.

    Oh, and Alexander as well, of course.🙂

    Comment by Brian | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  3. Congrats to all involved, and the kid looks like a Boss already.

    Comment by Khestra the Unbeheld | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  4. 🙂

    Comment by Matthew Farrer | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  5. Congratulations sir. I want to thank you for inviting us, your fans, into what has to be one of the most joyous and personal experiences of your life. The sheer humanity of your words, and the depth of feeling in them truly, truly touches me.
    Thank you.

    Comment by Vernon | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  6. That’s it, you’ve described it. You’ll feel the same way about your second😉

    There will be a second.

    Comment by Desmond Burke | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  7. So. A boy. Wow.

    I’ve learned a few things about doctors in the last year or so. Mostly, they’re not very honest. I don’t know if that’s because of a recent tendency for patients to sue the arses off doctors who mess up, and they want to protect themselves. Possibly it’s because doctors tend to see themselves as slightly superior to the rest of humanity, and therefore fine judges of what’s ‘safe for us to know’. But doctors are economical with the truth, shall we say. Or, shit, shall we say that doctors often have no ethical qualms about looking you in the eye and flat-out lying.

    Sometimes a doctor won’t tell you if there’s a problem with a pregnancy, for instance (and believe me that I would never for one second have thought of using this example before Alexander was born). At best, they might say, ‘Are you sure it’s a good idea for you to travel to England just now?’

    Sometimes a doctor or midwife is just plain wrong. For example, when they say, ‘Yes, this is definitely a miscarriage’ (it wasn’t, on that occasion). And sometimes they’re shifty – like when they find a moment with your girlfriend to ask, ‘Hey, that date of conception you mentioned in front of your boyfriend… are you sure that’s the REAL date of conception?’

    It was. I hope.

    But you know what, fuck it. It’s all worth it. Just reading this blog post makes me so psyched (or rather, even more psyched) that I’m going to have a baby girl in three-and-a-bit months. The fun times are just starting. No, wait – there’s a couple of years of chores and sleeplessness first, and THEN the fun times begin.

    Best of all, as you’ve unexpectedly had a boy, I get to appropriate the name Fuschia for my own daughter. Or whatever you were really going to call your kid.

    Seriously. Help me. We have no ideas.

    Congrats to A & K & A.

    SP.

    Comment by PW Gresty | February 22, 2012 | Reply

    • Congratulations, SP and Marlene!

      Say what you want about the NHS, but from what you’ve said about French doctors, I’m seriously going to consider how injured you have to be before EasyJet / Eurostar won’t let you travel.

      Comment by G | February 22, 2012 | Reply

      • Thanks, G-Man. I told Katie (D) about our imminent child yesterday as well, and she said she hopes that my baby girl takes after Marlene…

        I choose to take that affectionately. Somehow.

        Comment by PW Gresty | February 23, 2012

  8. Thanks for making my eye make-up run barely seconds after I put it on.

    Much love to the three of you.

    Daddy.

    Heh.

    Comment by Sarah Cawkwell | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  9. Reading this I cannot stop but wonder how much we are alike. Enjoy your son, like your friend Chuck said. I was getting tired of hearing all thta Fuchsia nonsense anyway…
    Congratulations.
    And I hope we’ll meet some day just as I hope I’ll have a kid of my own, someday.

    Comment by Flying_Dutchman | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  10. Congratulations to you both, and again thankyou for sharing with us one the most intimate moments of your life. What’s cool too is that Alexander’s birthdate is a palindrome in both short and long forms – 21-2-12 and 21-02-2012; nerdgasm!!

    Comment by Matt Ross | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  11. Congrats, man.

    Comment by BrotherStynier | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  12. Again Aaron, congratulations to the three of you, I hope yours and Katie’s first full day as parents is full of a sense of the joy the next 2 decades and more will be🙂

    Comment by Rob 'Emrys' Brown | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  13. At least no-one at the hospital said ‘whoops’?

    Congratulations, sir, madam and small.

    Comment by Von | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  14. Congratz Aaron and Katie🙂 very glad it went well. Hello Alexander! (a fine name, infact the name of my second born😉 )

    Make sure you get lots of pics n films n stuff.. they grow up quick.. and theny you cant remember jack.

    Really happy for all 3 of you.

    Comment by Crispin Ozz (@Skilledhandz) | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  15. Hubris.🙂

    Comment by Andreas Fabricius | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  16. It’ s easier for males to make it in the contemporary art world – So I’m happy, I’m also secretly looking forward to the day when he comes out to his parents. ‘Mum, Dad.. sit down, I have something to say…… I don’t like si-fi, I’m off to Adam’s to film myself with bacon on my face and call it art. Sorry.’

    Sabotaging everything you teach him is going to be great fun and a personal project of mine.

    Congrats guys.

    Comment by Adam DB | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  17. Welcome to the world, little man.

    Congratulations to all three of you; and that’s no yawn there. He’s doing the Angron face.

    Comment by James Swallow | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  18. Congratulations to ADB and KDB. Awesome choice on Alexander, which is also my name.

    Your kid will do just fine with the Iron Codes of Druss and Futurama guiding his life.

    LotN

    Comment by Lord of the Night | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  19. Congratulations😀. You have allowed us, your readers and friends, to experience this part of your life with you and now we are very happy to see your extremely cute baby boy.

    All the best for little Alexander, Katie and you.

    And yes , he’s totally doing an Angron face. I foresee interesting times ahead…

    Comment by Liliedhe | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  20. And your Auntie Lisa (or so I understand I am to be called) is also here for you whenever you may need anything. She’s been on the verge of tears all day, she’s so excited you’re finally here.

    I may be far, far away, but I love your parents very much and can’t wait to meet you (even if you came 7.5 hours before MY birthday, which I would have happily shared with you. I already share it with my brother Brandon, but with one more we could have made it a REAL party! 7.5 hours isn’t much of a difference, though. What’s 7.5 hours between family, anyways?).

    Also, you can expect to be spoiled rotten by all sorts of wonderfully and/or wondrously nerdy/geeky items that will be shipped from Across the Pond. I know your dad will make sure that you can “sing” along to the Imperial March before you’re out of diapers, and I’m sure that you’ll be screaming, “FOR THE HORDE!” while you chase Loken around the house. I will happily contribute and make sure that you know all of the words to the Firefly theme-song (when you’re a little older of course), but in the mean time I will enthusiastically play Space Cowboys with you any time I get to see you.

    Oh, and since I’m part of the Canadian wing of The Family, you can expect things with maple leaves and moose and beavers and orca whales on them. I’m also sure that since your dad likes the logo for the San Jose Sharks hockey team, your Uncle Rick (my other-half) will make sure that you have a thing or two. He likes to share the Sharky love.

    For the moment I will content myself with smiling and squeeing over the 2 photos your dad posted. I can’t wait to be able to have a Skype conversation with him and your mom after you’re home from the hospital so I can see their infatuated and enthralled expressions as they look at you.

    Welcome to the Family, little man. It’s a gooder.❤

    Comment by Lis0r | February 22, 2012 | Reply

    • “…even if you came 7.5 hours before MY birthday…”

      How does that work out with the time difference? You might have this on a technicality.

      Also, happy birthday.

      Comment by G | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  21. Parmenion would have sprung to my mind but then my middle name already is Alexander.

    Thanks for sharing this, to you and Katie equally, just the right amount of eye-wetting emotion I like.

    To Alexander, welcome along.

    Comment by Mark Grudgings | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  22. Congratulations to all the Demski-bowden family!

    Comment by Mortemer | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  23. The best thing you’ve written yet🙂 Congrats once again, I’m very happy for you and your family!

    Comment by Noobhammer Jason | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  24. Great news. My congratulations to you and Katie. Having been on this rollercoaster three times myself and it’s truly a life changing epoch. I have always enjoyed your writing for its passion and fury and now I think becoming a father will further enrich your work.

    And yeah, tiny fingernails are one of the unexpected joys.

    Good luck with the dadding. You have it off to a good start by choosing such a fine warrior name.

    Comment by Alex Holly | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  25. Congratulations again! Our first grandson…was in fact our first (and still only) granddaughter…so we can appreciate your surprise. At the end of the day…healthy baby means that the sex doesn’t matter. Enjoy!

    Comment by northernhomesteader | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  26. Think ive read your post 5 times now and its still as wonderfull to read as the first time. Love every word. How great it is to be a dad huh? Happy birthday Alexander! (David Gemmell really is awesome)

    Comment by Andreas Fabricius | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  27. It’s actually really lovely to read this experience from a mans point of you, my husband told me his side of both our sons births but it’s totally different to READ someones own experiences. Massive congratulations to you both, meeting your own child really is a miracle to behold, enjoy him, they seem to grow up terrifyingly quickly!!

    Comment by KerriFitz | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  28. A hilarious and touching post.

    Also — I’ll say it again, but enjoy your son. Seriously, ours is nine months old this week (out as long as he was in), and it’s been a great — if, er, tiring and exasperating — trip.

    Congrats to you two!

    — c.

    Comment by Chuck Wendig | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  29. Congratulations again!

    Comment by Midgard | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  30. Can’t send enough congrats your way man, I’m sure he’ll grow up to be mighty.

    Comment by Neverborn | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  31. Congratulations for the three of you!

    Comment by Marcelo Touza | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  32. Congratulations to you all. I’ve enjoyed reading the “Fuschia” blogs, as they reminded my husband and I of how it felt for us when I was pregnant with our 5 month old. It was fun to know we weren’t the only ones seeing the whole thing in a slighty twisted and non traditional way…and Alexander is the best boys name in the world….but I’m biased, our sons called it as well. Congrats again, enjoy!

    Comment by trouble626 | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  33. Congratulations Aaron and Katie, I wish you both only great joy from Alexander🙂

    Comment by Phillip Sobel | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  34. Congratulations! These updates have been fantastic and your advice to your newborn son is spot on!

    Comment by Nathan Reyes | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  35. Big congrats. Your post hit home for me – my missus and I are expecting our first in October. Way too soon for me, and I’m all kinds of scared and excited

    Comment by RD | February 22, 2012 | Reply

  36. I’m glad everyone is safe and happy, if tired!

    Comment by G | February 22, 2012 | Reply

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  38. Congratulations Aaron! I’m expecting my fourth soon so reading that blog was like a trip down memory lane AND of things to come!

    Oh and I totally wasn’t surprised to find out you’re a Gemmell fan, and yes I’ve laid the Iron Code out to my son😀

    Thanks for the books man, 40k’s finest.

    Comment by Rhys | February 23, 2012 | Reply

  39. Massive congratulations to you, Katie and ‘lil baby Alexander!

    Comment by Tom | February 23, 2012 | Reply

  40. Congrats again and wow what a blog post! Read it a couple of times as it just comes across with so much emotional power and the words sound like they are coming right from the core of your being. Hope Alexander has fun reading them all when he’s older.

    Comment by James Grunsell | February 23, 2012 | Reply

  41. Congratulations Aaron! Wish you and your wife (and son!) all the best! Look at it this way, now you can introduce him to 40k, and he’s sure to get into it🙂

    Comment by Chinh Tran | February 25, 2012 | Reply

  42. I know I’m about a month late, but congratulations on your brand new parenthood. Live a happy and full life, the three of you. Best wishes

    Comment by Destreza6 | March 29, 2012 | Reply

  43. […] Alexander is 1 today. A year ago, this was happening: https://aarondembskibowden.wordpress.com/2012/02/22/dear-fuchsia-part-iiib-dear-alexander/ […]

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  44. So, when is he going up on eBay?

    Comment by Kevin | February 25, 2013 | Reply


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